Step 1/3 · Situation

How stuck is it?

Five quick questions before we get to your words. Tick whatever applies — if none of it does, just carry on.

What is true of this conflict? You hardly talk to each other directly any more — only in writing, through others, or not at all. Other people have been drawn in; some are on your side, some on theirs. Someone was shown up or made fun of in front of others. There have been threats or ultimatums ("If you don't …, then …"). Someone has tried to harm the other — to hurt them, break something, or deliberately put them at a disadvantage.

Stages of escalation, after Friedrich Glasl You are about here: stages 1 to 3, you can sort it out together.

You can prepare this directly.

You can still talk to each other. Prepare the conversation and have it yourself — that is what this tool is for.